Top Tips for Supporting Human Relationships and Human Connection
The most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love, and to let it come in.
Morrie Schwartz
Why This Matters
Relationships help protect identity, belonging and wellbeing. A diagnosis of dementia does not remove someone’s need for affection, friendship and meaningful connection.
Introduction
Relationships may change as dementia progresses, but connection remains possible. Familiar voices, shared humour, gentle touch and time together can continue to carry meaning.
Real-Life Example
Alma visited her husband regularly but worried that he no longer recognised her. A member of staff noticed that he became more settled when she sat beside him and played music they had enjoyed together. He may not always have been able to explain the relationship, but her presence still mattered.
Mike’s Reflection
Recognition is not only shown by remembering someone’s name. It may be communicated through relaxation, attention, movement, expression or a willingness to remain close.
This Week’s Top Tips
Protect Important Relationships
- Support regular contact and visits
- Maintain shared routines and interests
- Enable private time together
Notice Different Forms of Connection
- Observe expression and body language
- Notice responses to familiar voices and music
- Look for signs of comfort and belonging
Learn From Those Who Know the Person
- Ask about important relationships
- Explore meaningful traditions
- Learn how the person has expressed affection
A Gentle Reminder
Never assume that a relationship has stopped mattering because someone cannot describe it in words.
September Challenge
Create one meaningful opportunity for connection based on what you know about the person.
Over to You
How do you help people maintain relationships that matter to them?
Remember: Small Moments can make a Big Difference.
Over to You:
Release Your Potential
- Do any of these things ring true for you and can you picture yourself putting these tips into action?
- What would it look, sound and feel like if you put some of these tips into action – for you and others?
- What barriers might you come against when putting these tips/ideas into action? How might you overcome them?
- Who could give you support and how?
- Have you tried these tips and ideas out and, if so, what have you learned?
I’d love to hear your thoughts, reflections, gut reactions, perceptions, experiences and wisdom.
Remember that sharing our experiences can help others, so your thoughts and comments are always welcome.
